I believe miracles happen,
they really happen in this world and it can be happened with anybody. My whole
stay from arrival in UK to departure from UK was not less than a miracle which
converted a defiant child to the most obedient child; arrogant to down to earth
person of a family, society.
Some of the inspiring incidents
happened in front of my eyes. I was getting positive vibes at that time and I was
feeling something is attracting me to look towards them, observe them and
realize.
.
2-12-2012, evening time, I was
in a grocery store in Southend-On-Sea looking for stuff suddenly I heard a very
soft, polite voice of a very decent, beautiful, seemed educated white, 21-23
years old girl asking for permission from her mum by showing the product to buy
some stuff. Her mum considering better for her, replied with "No" politely.
In response, the girl smiled and complied by putting that thing back on its
position. That moment was really mesmerizing, inspiring for me. I moved towards
them, met with them and shared with them my nice and respected feelings about
them and praised her daughter's obedience.
During travelling, I often
used to observe and smile and feel pleasant, nice when parents cuddling their children
and moving their hands on their kid's face, head very softly, kindly, tenderly.
Some parents have to travel in standing position by holding the buggy of their
child along-with keeping an eye on his/her safety while he/she does not even
need to think about how they are travelling while sitting in buggy or in the
lap of parent or playing with the toy with full comfort, relaxation. I used to observe
how parents, especially mothers have to remained all the time with their children
with tenderness, kindness. They have to sometimes lift the buggy. One day while
waiting for tube at Notting hill gate station I saw a lady checking her 4-5
months old baby's shoe, she took it out, checked from everywhere and checked is
something inside the shoes which is making the child cry. Until complete
satisfaction, she put on his shoes back. She missed 3 trains just for her
baby’s satisfaction and there was not enough space in the train as well. She
did not get on those tubes. She get on
the 4th tube which was enough vacant for her baby. I waited for her and keep
watching whole scenario. She was standing during whole journey and keeping an
eye on her baby. Emotional moment for me. Compelled and mesmerized my tears to
come out. Though I changed the seat to hide my feelings and tears.
This moment was not inspiring
but shocking and increased more respect of mother in my eyes. 14-11-2012, I was
coming from job in night time on the bus a guy sitting on my back seat was
talking with someone over the phone. During his conversation he told another
person that he is just waiting for mother's death as he is being irritated by
his mother's condition and after her death he will be able to get the papers of
property. It was very shocking for me in hearing and compelled me in deep
thinking that despite of having my big body, strength I would never ever be
able to even imagine about the pain which a mother feels 9 months, in fact
after that too. When we cannot even tolerate a small indigestion pain in
stomach or any small pain or wound in body how a mother tolerates heaviest
pains of life, unimaginable. They have
to face lots of sacrifices mentally and physically for the safety of her child
and there are some peoples exist in the world who are waiting for the demise of
their parent(s) so that they could get freedom, money, property etc. Isn't so
shameful? There are children who waste their time on internet, modern gadgets
or pass their time and talking with sometimes strangers on internet sitting
miles away but not willing to spend some sympathetic moments with parents
present inside the same house or they do not bother to call them to say at
least hello hi if they are not living with them.
I have seen many parents
taking stress, pains but still offering their children seat(s) in buses, trains
but only few times I have seen children offering to the parent(s). Once I was travelling
in central line from Harrow underground station to oxford circus, a simple,
decent beautiful girl holding her and her parents' umbrella, and other stuff in
one hand and with her another hand holding her old mother's hand and her mother
holding her
husband’s hand were getting on
the train. I was standing and first 2 seats became vacant. She was first but
instead of sitting first she offered both seats to her parents who were following
her and luckily all of sudden one more seat became available as the passenger
of that seat realized suddenly to get off at that station. While travelling she
was often looking at her parents in a caring, kind, loving way and passing
smile to her mother with kindness. She was attentive and responsive towards her
parents during whole journey so that her parents do need to do some extra effort
to get her attention and she also offered them water by herself. I was keep
staring that pleasant, lesson oriented, inspiring moments. Those were really
mesmerizing. I was keep thinking that her parents might be lucky and proud of
her daughter. I could not encourage myself due to crowd of people to say some
good words or appreciate to that girl but I had positive thoughts / words for
them specially for that girl. I think she got that seat as a reward of offering
seats to her parents first.
One day, evening time, I was
travelling in tube from South Kensington to Hornchurch, a lady was standing
whole (almost) journey holding the buggy of her baby. She tried to sit but she
could hardly sit for 5 minutes because her baby started crying. When she get
off at Hornchurch station, the tires of buggy stuck in the gap between platform
and train, she become worried, she tried to take out the buggy but she was
unable when the doors of train were closing the doors bumped with the buggy
though nothing harmful happened but she screamed so loudly and started crying
but after help of few peoples the buggy was taken out of the gap and remained
safe but that lady was keep weeping like a baby and keep saying, "My baby,
my baby...", she was holding the baby in her hands and cuddling the baby
and keep weeping. What an emotional moment that was. I could never forget that screaming,
weeping. I often think how many times a mother has to save her baby from
dangerous incidents, things and we children, in return what we do? We never
ever even bother to think about that.
One night I was working in a
restaurant as a waiter. At 8:30 p.m. a Lady with her 3 sons, one of them was
mentally not well entered into the shop and sat at a corner chairs with
table. The eldest son was
sitting with his youngest brother sitting in front of his mother and she was
sitting beside the middle one. I have had never seen them before in my 3 months
working period. The age of sons would be around 6, 9 and 10. The lady ordered
food for them, after 5 minutes their order was ready which I served them. While
eating, the sons were keep screaming, annoying, and teasing each other,
complaining about each other to their mother. The lady could not eat properly
because of her sons’ actions despite of giving their food separately in the
boxes and helping his youngest son in eating his dinner. The lady was behaving
very pleasantly. Suddenly the middle boy squeezed the bottle of chili sauce
into the box of his youngest brother. The youngest one started weeping loudly,
his mother tried to shushed him kindly but the son instead of staying quit, he
had to take revenge and tried to throw the box filled with food and the bottle
of chili sauce onto his elder brother, luckily his brother was saved by mother
but unfortunately the chili sauce bottle was strike with the face of mother and
some sauce was spilt on to the face of mother and some of the food fell on the
floor which made the floor messy. I had been attracted to and slightly looking
at that whole lesson oriented (for me) scenario. At that time the shop was also
not busy. After spilling of sauce, drink, food, the lady gave me anxious look.
I quickly moved towards them with a new filled food box and gave to the youngest
boy to make him calm down, the lady thanked to me, while the sauce was still on
her face. When her sons became calm down, she went to wash her face. Meanwhile,
I started cleaning the mess on the floor, table partly but she suddenly came to
me and forbid me very kindly and apologized me for her son's behavior and
assured me that she will clean their mess but forbid me twice, very kindly. I
noticed, because of chili, her left eye became reddish and tears were keep
coming from that eye, I offered her serviettes. She cleaned all the mess,
apologized once again and thanked to me, when they were going out of the shop.
This whole scenario was keep clicking in my mind and compelling me to realize
that how many sacrifices mother has to do, she could not even eat half of her
food, she distributed her food among her children; she was helping them in
eating, trying to keep the moment pleasant, maintaining her sons' happiness but
what she got in result a swelling, reddish eye with pain, anxiety, insult from
her own son; she even could not fill her appetite and without
considering anybody else and her
pride she cleaned all their mess. OH my
days. It was really heart touching. According to modern age, such small things
might be ignorable or common things but biggest, biggest lesson for those who
understand, realize, think, and care. This scenario put me in deep thoughts.
For just half an hour such children have done this, how she would be managing
them in the house and how she has been managing them since their childhood.
Really, really competent manager or I would say a Leader, according to me. I often see and think parents, they grown their children,
made them healthy, strong, successful and in return some children, they show
them aggressions, rudeness and answer them that "If you have done for us,
that was your responsibility", If that was their responsibility than what
the responsibilities of children are towards parents? To taunt them, disrespect
them, be rude with them? Isn’t shameful?
Exactly after one hour, 9:30,
still I was roaming, realizing, and thinking about the previous scenario, and
apologizing, repenting myself internally a young boy around 19-20, in elegant
suiting, younger than me, opened the doors and holding his mother’s hand
entered into the shop. They sat on the same chairs (table). I was shocked
because he had a lots of difference in his outer look than his behavior with
his mother and way of talking. I got same positive vibes, feeling on their
entrance. I went to them asked their order which was completely mother's choice
on request of faithful son. I served them very nicely. They both were very
polite, nice especially the lady was very kind. While eating the food, some
food and bottle of sauce unintentionally spilled by the mother's hand on her shoes
and floor, before she could get the bottle from the floor and clean her shoes,
the son immediately bent down and picked up the bottle and requested her mom
very kindly to carry on eating and enjoy her food, she told him that she will
do but the son again very kindly requested that, “let he be given the
opportunity, please.” His mother smiled. After all she was a mother, she did
not prefer to continue eating. I move towards them to clean the mess but the
son politely stopped me and asked me, "I am so sorry, I clean the mess,
please ". I came back to my position and I was observing, he cleaned all
the mess on the floor and took out handkerchief from his pocket and clean the
shoes of his mother. I have never ever seen in my life such great moment. His
mother forbidding him and telling him to continue his food but that gentle guy
was faithfully and softly dominating and requested her to let him do that.
After cleaning, he washed his hands and starting eating and helping his mother.
He was having nice, pleasant conversation with his mother. Meanwhile there were
customers including beautiful, hot girls, wearing short dresses starring to him
and other vulgar guys cracking jokes with each other and smiling in a teasing
way but he did not concentrated on them nor even looked once towards them. He
enjoyed the precious moment with his mother. His mother was looking really very
happy. During their presence, she was often looking towards me with very kind, sympathetic,
motherly look and passing smile, It seemed and I was feeling like she has read
my face or she knows about me very well and she is saying to me, "May God
bless you", "May God forgive you" internally and at the same
moment my eyes became watery, though the tears were not coming out of my eyes.
At the end when they stand up to go and left the table, I went there to clean
the table, which was not really messy. While, I was cleaning, a softest,
lightest weight of hand touch I felt on my shoulder from behind. When I turned
back, I saw the same old lady is standing in a pleasant, smiley face and asked
me, "Did you make your parents happy?” I was shocked and slightly felt
shivering. I did not know what to say. I replied, "Yes, may be". She
again asked me softly, "Did you really make your parents happy?” I
replied, "No". She smiled and touched on my arm and advised me,
"beg for forgiveness from God and your mother, make your father's life
easier and make him happy". I was shocked and sticked in one position. I
was speechless and at that moment the tears came out of my eyes. Before I would
have said anything, the mother holding his son's hand had gone. These scenario
put me in deep thinking, I finished my job at 11:00 p.m. Since then I was keep
thinking, what happened with. I was feeling slight changes in my body. I was
shivering, nervous, repenting, and weeping almost whole night.
Before
Until the age of 18, I was
fine, obliging to my parents, brother. But as I was getting older, growing up I
was becoming mean, rude, and arrogant. Often I used to say to my parents, elder
brother, "You do not know anything, I know very well, you cannot
understand my feelings, you cannot understand me, and you do not know about
this, that, you do not know about this modern world, you are at home, you
can/do not have to face the world, blah, blah ". I forgot that my brother,
who sacrificed for me, he used to teach me, helped me in every problems,
difficult situations, assignments, technology, he could not accomplished his
engineering studies because of me so that I could study very well and make my
family proud. My parents, who gave me life by the blessings of God, nurtured
me, dressed me, held me, shouted at me, loved me unconditionally, when I did
not know how to speak, when I was a baby, nobody could understand my language
what I was saying but my parents were there to understand and interpret, tell
others what I am saying; how to walk, how to clean. They were there at that
time always to help me, to teach me, to support me, to guide me, to encourage
me and now I am saying to them that they do not know, they cannot understand
me, so mean I was.
But
Later
I realized parents are really
parents, they know much better than us. They would have experienced more about
life. World is changing we are getting modern but being modern have never meant
that we forget our basic ethics, principles, respect towards parents, elders If we cannot follow their advice than at least
we can discuss with them, table talk but not rude with them. Parents have
always soft, kind side whether they belong to any race, any country, and any
religion. The role of parents, I think, is never alterable.
Before
After year 12 of my college, like
many, I made my parents cry, my brother cry that I do not want to study in
Government University and I was stubborn to study in a private expensive
fancyCollege. My mother was advising me, "your father has not enough money
to send you in expensive fancyCollege because he is having limited, honest
earnings, so please, kindly do not ruin your future. Get educated now,
education will always help you everywhere, you can later on study anywhere you
want but at least complete your degree from here, please". I do not know
why? but might be in teenage I was mentally hypnotized of social cum modern cum
fancy world of getting admission in expensive, private institutions whether the
quality education being provided there or not by following to irrelevant, wrong
persons.
In fact after completing
bachelor’s degree from same Government University, I got scholarship from Telecom
Company in my country to study and complete some certifications in Telecom
field through self-study. The good thing but I did not realize at that time, due
to my overestimated thinking about those wrong peoples, my neighbors, my mates
whom I was following, that they also applied for that scholarship but they
could not get selection even in the initial test and interview but I was
selected. I completed and passed the certification after studying whole one
year but that was my self-efforts whole one year I passed certification. I was
thinking that the company had not done anything for me. I had studied by myself
they had not taught me and my colleagues were always doing low mentality
discussions, bragging, boasting on their small accomplishments though those
were small for me at that time because I got more experience before them but
later I ruined and stopped my growth in my field by resigning from that
company. I never thought that they financially supported me to accomplish the
certifications but I was mentally so irritated, depressed by that environment,
such feelings, thoughts that I could not tolerated and survived long enough in
that environment. Still, whenever I realize, I would consider myself sinful
children, candidate.
I could not stopped there, even
then I was unfortunately, mesmerized, became fancy of foreign education, their
gimmicky very elegant, sophisticated prospectus, websites, their cheesy
marketing techniques, rumors of earning handsome income easily in dollars,
pounds, while studying, I refused to study my Masters in Telecommunication
Engineering from same government university. Which was my unluckiest, biggest
mistake of my life. I decided to go to England and do masters from there and
expecting that I will be earning handsome amount by doing white collar, my
skills related jobs with very intelligent, sensible, ethical, Cooperative,
broad-minded, very professional, role model type peoples, despite of knowing that
I am short of money, capital for the foreign fees, initial expenses. I was
thinking that I will be studying from very high profile university and working
in the very pleasant and growth oriented environment.
But
Later
I realized the reality was
very far from my thinking, I was wrong. My Government University was much
better than the foreign one, I was stubborn to. After coming here I came to
know what sort of low quality institute my choice was. It was ready to give you
degree on your completion whether you were taught up to the mark / level /
quality skills or not. In fact considering London, I also took some short term
courses to study but I was very disappointed that after spending heavy amount
in shape of fees I just got the certificate of attending the course but in
reality that course was really unsatisfied, taught in a very bad way and no
exams, no projects nothing. Before it was overly informed about the course,
tutor, institute but totally cheesy marketing techniques. There was nothing
like that. The tutor was seemed non-professional as far as his position, field
were concerned. I repent that I done biggest mistake of my life by missing my
past jobs, opportunities, job after scholarship. That scholarship program was
much better than the courses which I attended on my own money.
Despite of
having competent, required skills, talent the circumstances became so worst,
tight for me that I was not even able to get satisfactory jobs one reason was
that I had
limited
working hours permit in England, I would consider it as an excuse only but the
main reason I believe was that I had to get life changing lessons here in
England. Which I did. Already it had been written in my fortune.
I had to face such cheap mentality
coworkers, irritating environment that realized me the importance of my past.
Now, when I see my old colleagues
of institutes, work, Oh My God, almost everybody has been developed, grown up in
their respective specialties, skills, fields. Some are working in Kuwait,
Canada, Saudi Arabia, India, China, and Pakistan. Some were working as a
Lecturer in university, college; some are working as System Analyst, Assistant
Project Manager, Project Managers, Mobile Service Engineer, Mobile Telecom
Analyst, Spectrum Engineer, Operations Engineer etc. But I was working too far from such jobs,
positions, job titles, fields. If I had carried on working according my field
skills in the past, definitely I would have reached on higher positions until
now with fine growth, success.
Almost boasting, bragging,
cheap and cheesy marketing techniques in this world. I realized. My previous
institutes have been proved better and result oriented for me. Still, whenever
I think about those moments, I consider myself sinful, unthankful.
In my life, I forgot to take
examples of those guys who were my colleagues at some stages of life who had
studied, in government schools, the cheapest in fees, not even in English
medium. But at the time of admissions in famous medical, engineering
universities they were selected in a very high profile English medium
institutes, and some of those who had studied in private schools were unable to
pass. Those guys are now doctors, engineers just because of education. They did
not follow the fake modern lifestyle. Now they are capable of spending their
life easily. I am repenting.
Before
My father often used to ask me
to join, help him in the shop as he is getting older or until I get a stable
job. My elder brother often helps him, still, but I was feeling proud. I often
refused to him by saying to him, "still I am so young, this is not my age
to work, boys of my age, my friends are enjoying and I have to work".
After graduation I used to reply, "That is not my field of work, it’s so
cheap to work in the shop, my friends will think badly about me, what the
people will say a Network Engineer working in a small shop". I was leaving
the jobs again and again but my father was remained supportive in getting me stable
jobs.
I used to taunt my family when
they not overly, tell about my good skills during general discussions with my neighbors
or with their friends but I used to discourage them because I was mentally
scared / dominated by the peoples, my friends having apparently luxurious life.
I could not consider my positive intellectual skills, abilities.
My neighbors, friends, my
parents' friends' children, financially stronger, I used to consider them as a
role model, I was trying and always looked at their luxurious life and used to
degrading my real ability, skills, talent. Some of them have become alcoholic.
But
Later
I had to tell, when I was asked, that I am working in a butcher
shop, fish monger, waiter, chef at kebab shop, chicken shop, fish shop, labor,
cleaner. So shameful / degraded for me despite of having fully qualified
skills, talent but unfortunately bad luck because of my own actions.
Before
My father used to hold my hand
even until my teenage whenever we were walking on / near the road, footpath or
crossing the roads. I used to taunt to not hold my hand I can / will cross by
myself. I was so mean / unable to understand his attention, love, feelings.
It’s so hard in our country to
go by walk in the hot weather condition. He used to send me in the public
transport but never let me walk too much on feet. Even despite of his old age, not
good health he was walking long miles because of financial instability and I used
to blame him he is so mean. I used to demand, "why you do not buy bike,
car, why are you being so stingy??” He was earning money by hard working,
honestly. If he had money why would he give pain to himself 40 *C sometimes
more than that he was walking. He used to hold stuff / groceries in one hand
and from another hand he used to hold my hand sometimes also holding groceries
in same hand along-with my hand but never let me feel pain by holding weight in
my hand.
It's so hot in our country and
due to higher electricity bills. My parents often switched off their room’s fan
but keep fan of our room switched on so that we could sleep peacefully, easily.
They were unable to financially tolerate heaters there but I was thinking they
were stingy. But it's really very expensive in our country to tolerate bills,
purchase such stuffs for honest earner. When we were kids, I remember because
of load shedding of light by the electricity department my parents used hand
fan specially my mum to not let us feel hot. But I hardly ever used hand fan
for my parents.
But
Later
In England
when I could not get the job of my skills, talent, white collar thus I had to
walk miles for jobs due to heavy expensive fares, shop by shop, apply for
cheap, odd jobs. Which became my fortune, harsh tutor for the time being though
I am changed now and upgraded.
I was forbidden strictly by
the landlords of house to not switch on the heater and in some other houses I
had to keep the heater off and tolerate the coldest weather, shivering considering
the high bills because I had to pay high bills because of misuse of electricity
by other roommates (I had to sacrifice). Circumstances realized, taught me
sacrifices in England. How my parents were managing the budget, cold weather,
hot weather and many things, I realized a glimpse.
Before
I used to ask too many
questions and many times asked same question repeatedly in my childhood from my
parents but I always got the answers politely, patiently, happily with smile
face, with cuddle, love, affection, kindness, tender hands on my face, head.
But when I grew up, when my parents asked from me or inform me something
regarding me, for my betterment, for my advantage. I often taunt them, I became
irritated, I used to scold them sometimes. How mean I was.
I was often feeling irritation
whenever I tried to advise them, teach them, let’s suppose to guide them about
mobile phones, about my field. It was taking them long to understand that,
which was never their fault, mistake.
I used to not
discuss my matters with my family, they were keep requesting me, encouraging me
to share my ideas, griefs with them but I was rarely doing that. At some point
I had in my mind that I am now grown up. Never thought that all credits go to
my parents, brother. Before my parents were scared of my angriness,
sadness, taunts because they love me a lot and they knew that I do not like repeated
things, advises, discussions, instructions. They were not being able to guide,
advice, make correction of me because they were thinking I could get angry,
become sad, I would taunt them. My parents were so cautious of my sadness that
they were conveying their advices, messages through my elder brother. What an
unluckiest son I was. Really shameful for me.
I used to think sometimes that
I should live alone, live separate from my
family or I used to think that,” I wish when I get enough money I will live
separately, I will be so happy by living alone; I feel boring, irritating,
annoying with my family; I do not need them now, I have become life experience”.
The worst wish of life. I also tried 2-3 time to leave my house but unluckily (according
to past thoughts) but luckily (present and future thoughts) that it could not
become possible. I never realized how much sever pain they would have felt if
even they had heard about that thing. Thanks to God that I never intentionally
or unintentionally said such thing in front of them.
But
Later
In England, during my jobs, customer
services, I was often asked same questions, same things, informed about same
things by irritating, annoying customers, coworkers, roommates, employers who
often do such things deliberately. They sometimes fought with me because of
their habits but I often remained patient by considering my past moments. Such realizations
often made me cry internally. Perfect realization though. In London, I was
experiencing such scenarios by narrow minded people, by working with them,
living with such people. I believe that my unluckiest time period was started being
written in my fate when I started making my parents sad, the biggest sin of my
life. Some of the peoples I was working with were those who even did not bother
to accept my common sense based advises. I often used to think why I became so
mean, why I never thought that my parents who nurtured me, taught me when I was
even not able to speak, deliver proper words but my parents were there to
understand and teach me and when I grew up how I could have become more
intelligent than them, how could I ignore their importance. Shame on me. I
really feel unlucky.
I realized
their importance, values in their absence. I realized being children of
parents, have we ever thought should we speak to parents at least once in a day
or once in a week, no matter we are grown up or we have now our own family,
whether they need us or we need them or not. Should we call them, speak with
them politely, gently, kiss on
their
forehead, hug them, kiss and hold those tender hands which were holding our
small hands and taught us walking, done our cleaning and kept us clean and
hygienic; softly help them. Carers are helping them for shopping, have we ever
taken them for shopping? Or at least have a word with them?
I realized, I
was never grown up, life experienced person in front of them. In fact I was far
from that. I believe that it is so painful to live apart, far from family. It
could not be that much painful for the child but for parents I cannot even
imagine about that pain cum feelings. The reality is I have never felt
happiness even for one moment by living far from parents, family. I remember
when I was on job or in university, sometimes I had to come late at home, my
parents became so worried that they were keep calling me on my phones asking
about the reasons or when I am coming back to home?, have I eaten food or not? etc.
They are really blessings, family especially parents are blessings, gifts from
God. The companion of sorrows, griefs, happiness without thinking, expecting
advantages, benefits for their own, unconditional lovers of child.
13-5-2013, I
met with a girl who was working in a bank. During conversation, she said to me
she wants to move somewhere else and wants to leave her parents' house. When I
friendly asked any special reason. She replied, "Just for fun, it's so
boring now living there, I want to move with my friends, we friends want to
live together and have some fun, enjoy the life.” This reply made me gloomy.
When she asked me with curiosity, "why do you do odd jobs in spite of
having high skills, qualifications?" I replied,” I have to do and face as
a punishment of my disobedience, defiance to my parents, sibling. Once I was
thinking about separation from parents and after those thoughts cum worst
wishes I have to live far from my family.”
I wish I
could undo those past memorable moments of my life.
Parents are blessings, loss of any of them irreparable and irreversible.
It’s getting
common nowadays or fashion of a gimmicky / fancy, material modern world that until
we need some sort of financial need or any other need we live with parents but
when our need has been fulfilled we plan to leave parent(s) house, leave them
alone. If
some of us are rich than either we shift them to the home care, it does not
matter how nice it is or we make them a big house, flat for them to live alone
and hire a carer for them. I often think why we forget that parents could have
done same thing, they would have left us in child care homes 24/7 but they
never did that. In our country it is very hard whether parents are rich or not.
Until we are in need of their help in any shape we live with them. They have
been always with us. But when they reach to old age they are burden for us. I
believe that in the old age parents need some time from their children, instead
of only tablets and medicines or care as a formalities by some Carers. They
need their child's attention, presence no matter for few minutes. They want
from them that at least once they put a small morsel happily, tenderly in their
parents’ mouth like they did when we were unable to even learn how to eat or
put a morsel in our own mouth. But we often pressurize our parents instead of
being polite with them. Strange isn't. I realized and believe, if the word of
true love exists than only in shape of mother's love or parents' love after
love of God. The love, sympathy, tolerance of parents can never be measurable. I
think we do have responsibilities towards them but we never bothered to realize
or even think about that. What would you say?
Before
Sometimes, if my parents,
brother bought something for me or if I had bought something and they asked
just for small share I never used to give them. I sometimes used to hide from
them when I bought something for myself.
I used to demand from my
father for fruits. My father never made us feel shortage of fruits. I used to
eat too much from fridge my sibling never got angry, I was younger.
Sometimes, I used to demand to
my mother that, "I want the food quickly or I want only fried food else I
will go out and eat the food from outside". At that time I used to eat
dirty, unhygienic food
specially rice, fried food from outside. But I unluckily was never able to
understand the feeling, hygiene in the home-made food, the love and affection
of mother's hand-made food. She used to cook very delicious food. Whenever my
mother used to cook French fries / chips, I used to demand for more for me,
more for me but due to financial instability, high prices of food in our
country it was not possible all the time though my mother used to try. How
sacrificing mother she was that she often used to give me more food from her
own food, she used to store, separated for me from her own food by telling me
different reasons, but in reality she was giving me share from her own food.
She sometimes remained hungry but never let me feel that she is hungry, she is
sacrificing. Who knew that in future there will be time when I will have to
keep eating outside food especially fast food.
But
Later
I realized how kind they were
that when they had bought for me then they could have bought for themselves
as-well or they could have bought only for themselves instead of buying for me.
They only wanted to see how much love I had for them in which I used to fail.
There were times when I did
not eat the fruits for long time period due to my circumstances. Those moments
of taking out and eating fruits’ share of my brother, my parents from the
fridge were memorable and unforgettable.
I came to realize that whenever
I said to mum or my parents, “I have already eaten food from outside”. They became
so gloomy specially mum. I never felt their feelings when they say," you
could have called us that you will be coming late or eating from outside”. But
I used to say, “I was so busy, could not get time now I am full, I cannot eat
any more". But here, sometimes enough
time but not easy to cook and then eat.
In England, I was never ever
offered by my friends, coworkers, roommates not even a formal offer but I
always offered and shared with them. During my stay in London approximately 1
and half year continuously I had to eat outside food where I was working, same
food, I was unable to eat the house food or cook for myself due to tiredness,
insufficient money, resources. Despite of my offerings to them whenever I
bought asian food, I was never ever even offered by my house mates, my
coworkers, even though some coworkers had their families but unluckily whenever
they brought the food from their house, I was never offered even a fake offer
or for formality, they sometimes tried their best to finish before they see me
or before my shift started. I realized the importance of home-made specially
mother's hand-made food. I was even unable to request anybody to cook or give
or share some food with me. I know, I will never ever have the opportunity to
eat my mother's hand-made food though I can now cook myself but no comparison
of mother's hand-made food. I believe that those kids / children are luckiest
who are eating their mother's hand-made food. I realize its' importance, I will
miss it forever. But at least now I can cook for my father, my brother at least
to heal my sins with my smallest good actions.
Before
Sometimes my parents were
keeping an eye on me, stricken with me and forbidden me for bad companionship
due to some reasons which they knew better than me but I was, to make my
friends happier I was going against of my parents directions. I was not
thinking about the consequences. I was encouraged by bad companions for bad habits.
At that time I was unable to find or justify anything bad in such habits so sometimes
just because of making my friends (actually not real and good friends) happier
I was not talking with my parents which made them gloomy, the biggest sin.
I used to get
angry of my parents very often and often did not talk with them for long time
period without taking care that, how gloomy they will feel.
But Later
I realized
that my parents were right because of our dignity and I have seen the current
life of those peoples. My future would have ruined and somewhat has affected by
following to some of them. Such habits are sin and disrespect for me if
I am drinking or smoking in front or in absence of parents. Though I knew it
before but I was feeling little bit strange by watching in reality that mother
and daughter smoking, drinking alcohol together. I have also seen teenage girls
having 1-2 babies standing beside them, in buggy and teenage mothers were
smoking cigarettes in front of few years old baby starring and observing to
mother’s habits and actions and mother sometimes scolding without any reason to
her kids on their every movements, actions, words and they themselves feeling
nervous, frustrated, depressed.
In fact I
have also seen many children who to make others or their friends happy they
tease their parents for them which I think is biggest sin and they could have
to regret, bear the loss, might be they could unable to find inner
satisfaction, happiness. I realized to consider permanent happiness, we should
respect our elders, especially parents. It could not be good to say that some of
the guys who taunt other children when they be nice with their parents are
those guys who don’t even know who their parents are. Strange wasn’t. Not
strange anymore. This seems common might be that’s why some of them, they taunt
because they might not understand the importance. When I was kid, I had a
friend who didn't know where and who his father is? I know still he has never
been able to see or meet with him. He used to crack jokes on other's parents,
calling them with different names as a fun and annoying and taunting onto other
mates in the name of their parents. But only parents are best friends, they can
help to children in any worst condition, they will remain supportive but
friends, mates, and colleagues they are just temporary. Some expect benefits,
some have bad intentions, and some have greed from you. But I think parents
never expect anything materialist, or greed from their child. What they except,
some love, respect, affections, companionship for at least few moments.
I realized no
matter how much a parent is angry of child though that anger is for child betterment
but within few minutes their anger melted down. I remember at the age of 9, once
my mother was very angry of me because of my big mistake but while trying to
save myself I started running but I fell down from stairs my mom was very angry
but when she saw my blood coming from my head, OMG, she become worried, she gave
her best of best efforts for me to get well soon. She could not sleep properly
whole night often crying, praying from God for me, keep moving her hand on my
face, body with love, tender while I was sleeping and passing smile to her in
her lap. At that time I was kid but I still remember her tears were dropping on
my clothes. I could not feel at that time but whenever I remember, I realize
and try to feel her feelings and feel ashamed of my guilt.
Before
Before I was
being or pretending to be so proud, hygienic that in meat, chicken, fish
markets in my country I used to avoid to enter in those markets due to stinks (the
main reason). In the old age of my father when I was asked politely, very
softly to buy some meat, fish, chicken products from the market. I used to
avoid, ignore, sometimes I straight forward said 'No' to them. When I used to
go with my father I avoided to handle those products even though they were
fully packed, covered in plastic bags, but some non-sense thoughts, social
pressure and immaturity made me crazy. In fact I was not even willing to hand
over plastic bags to my Mom for packaging them at home after washing them. I
was not even going near to her while she was washing such products for us. But
I was always willing and ready first of .all to eat the cooked one. So mean I
was.
But Later
Most of the
jobs I had to do in England due to my compulsions included Restaurants Chef, fish
and chips chef, chicken chef, I had to work as a butcher (most of the time), cleaner
in butcher/meat shop. I often had to hold the raw meat, fish, and chicken in my
hands, wash them, prepare the food from them. In starting it was hard for me
but when I became used to of such things I never thought about that. But I have
always realized my past rude attitudes.
Before
Just for fun,
enjoyment, joke I used to not praise about my mother's and father's (in rare
circumstances) hand-made food. They became gloomy, sad, depressed, and degraded
quickly. But for me that was enjoyment though later I used to praise. I used to
crake jokes, say falsely in my house's bathroom whenever if my brother came out
of the bathroom that bathroom's floor is wet just for enjoyment. But that would
have definitely hurt him because I was lying, making fun. I was trying to
surprise them.
But Later
I realized if
a mother/father had cooked for you by taking too long time and hardworking and
served you very well and then you complain, take out mistakes, dislike that
food no matter just for fun, joke but obviously it would be very painful for
them. I was often taunted, teased, irritated, annoyed by my bosses, coworkers about
my cooking, my odd jobs work without caring how hardworking I was doing sometimes
in the busiest nights and days. I was assigned duties to keep the washroom,
toilets, and bathrooms cleaned, tidy. Filthiest things I had ever done and seen
but I had to do. I was made superstitious, tricked, laughed by others. Before I
never felt the pain until I realized by myself the same.
Before
I used to
feel in presence of my mother that I have shelter. I often used to put my head
in the lap of my mum and sleep when I was in teenage. Not describable in words
the relief, peace, happiness, tenderness, blessings I used to feel at those
moments whenever I was having the kind and loving hands of my mother on my
head, face.
But later
I realized my
immaturity, childish acts thrown me away from those blessings, rewards. After
my mother's demise I have been feeling shelter less because of my mother's absence.
Now I miss those tenderness, kindness which I was having through my mother.
Those prayers for me, really missing those blessings which I had in her presence.
I felt my luck, chances dropping from my hands. Opportunities were on my palm
but I was unable to grab them with my fingers. Despite of words in my mouth, I
was unable to speak, express my feelings.
Before
I had too
many opportunities, offers for work pertinent to my skills, caliber. I
remember, once I applied in a telecom company as an intern or trainee job and
once in a college for junior position but by the blessings of God, my parent’s
prayers, my brother’s help, my skills I was offered direct job and senior
positions respectively. I got very well educated, sensible, co-operative,
helpful, experienced, friendly seniors, employers, managers, coworkers, and
pleasant professional environment very early. They were there to tell, guide,
and listen. But I could not understand the importance at that time. I left all
those jobs. May be I got too early the professional experience to digest which
I think hardly anybody get chance of such professional experience so early in
his/ her life. But mental and social immaturity, thoughts made me careless.
But Later
I had to beg
for jobs, request to cheap peoples for at least odd jobs who were very down in
skills, literally, morally, thoughts and in their actions. Their actions, dodges,
double-faces
were biggest proofs and after all that, when I was hired there in the name of
training without any pay and despite of all that I was being told that they are
doing favor on me by hiring me or by getting me the job when in reality they
had their own benefits. I had to face, lived, worked with those peoples of
society with cheap, cruel, selfish, non-sensible, arrogant, pretending nature
and actions. Often situations became so worst that guiding them, or following
them became almost impossible. OH MY DAYS.
So irritating those moments were. I realized how kind and better guide my
bosses, seniors, employers, managers were in my past. I remember, I often
requested few of my employers for my increment in salaries, and those requested
were accepted in a very nice way but when during odd jobs, hardest jobs,
physically specially, I asked for increment in wages. I was disrespected,
rudely responded with swearing, threats of losing jobs. Strange, isn't?
Before
When I was in
my teenage I used to do the jobs to cover my expenses but some neighbor women used
to tell and advise in jealousy, negative, taunting way to my mother about me,
"Why he is doing job, this age is for enjoyment, fun, and from now he has
started working. Let him enjoy the life. This is not his age to work. Look at our
kids, they are enjoying they do not need to worry about jobs.”
But Later
When their children,
some of them my mates came into professional life they started feeling
difficulties until they could get the grip on the work but such things never become
hurdles or resistance for me in my professional, my skills related jobs. I was
always remained confident. Before I also used to think I should not do the jobs,
I was angry with my parents. I used to think my parents are so mean, so stingy,
and so cruel, they want me to earn money for them. But Later I realized the
importance in London and when I came to know about my friends’ situations,
positions. My parents were encouraging me for jobs for my own beneficial and
bright future.
In teenage, I was some accompanied
by big, very high profile personalities during my jobs. I learnt to some extent
accounts, legal matters, marketing, computers, lots of knowledge may be that’s why
I became arrogant. I was having enough knowledge, nice environment, peaceful, white
collar, pleasant jobs but I could not realize the importance of such nice
things at that time I was unthankful and thinking wrong. But when I was seeing
many peoples here who were able to learn such things here in England at the age
of 22-26, many of them through some funding, money or support of someone and
despite of all those facts they were bragging, boasting in a very excitement,
with curiosity about small things in front of me were really degrading,
frustrating, depressing, discouraging for me. But I was luckier that I learnt
such things prior before the age of 19 years. Thanks for God, parents. I came
to realize about the importance of my past when bad things were happening with
me i.e. I was serving fish, kebabs, chicken to some of those newbies who were
often disrespectful in behavior. But those
experiences at teenage really helped me a lot, a lot in my life. In London I
realized specially the sense of responsibility, mental maturity, financial
management, time management, professionalism.
Before
My parents, sibling
also guided me, sometimes they said to me when they get annoyed, depressed,
frustrated at high level that, "Do not annoy that much that you could not
tolerate in future in your life, you could be faced in a same way from your children".
But I always immaturely passed, ignored those moments with cheeky laughs,
smiles, sentences in a teasing and taunting way and replying that, "I will
grow up nicely to my children".
But Later
I think it was in my fate that
I should be sent here to get life changing, unexpected, unimagined lessons, and
to realize the importance of my parents and siblings. I considered their
positions while the same things were happening with me. I realized that I could
not even grow up myself very well how I could grow up, nurture, and nourish my
children better than my parents in the tough world. They were marvelous, better
than me. I had really behaved badly with them. I respect to them, to their
tolerance, and my apologies to them. I apologize to my parents, my siblings, and
I really mean it and I am not feeling any hesitation in that and I would suggest
to all those disobedient children to respect their parents.
In London during my work time,
I used to see the kindness and sweetness of mothers and bad responses of kids even
mature children but the parent especially mothers were always quiet,
tolerating, kind. In fact often children were taunting to mothers. I wish at
that time I could advice to that child, but it could have been weird feeling to
be advised by strangers or my advice could have made them more angry,
aggressive towards me or more rude to their parents. So to realize them about
their bad behavior which became one of my reasons to share my experiences, my
true personal life experiences, the ups and down of my life through this book.
Before
My mother was awaken, waiting
for me for lunch, dinner, breakfast but I was eating outside, not eating on
time, too busy about thinking mum's feelings
But
Later
In London no body to wait for
me, nobody even offered the food even when I was working pizza shops my
coworkers, who pretending to be sympathetic, used to order food from outside
they used to hide food from me so that they will not have to offer me food just
for formality. Even they did not ask me to give a share so that we together had
bought or ordered some Asian food from outside.
Before
I never bothered to take my
utensils back from the sink. Wash them. Never care about washing clothes,
utensils etc. Often my brother asked me to keep the house clean but I was
replying with defiance that, "who are you to say me, you are nobody to
worry about that mum will do, why do you interfere". He often asked me,
"she is your mother, you should respect her". But my mum often end-up
the matter very kindly and my brother often used to do the cleaning of the
house by trying to remain calm and kind.
Instead of ordering to me,
which I was my responsibility to follow, my parents used to do the cleaning of
whole house specially my respectable mother. I remember whenever the sinks of
our houses, were knowingly, unknowingly blocked by me. Instead of calling to
someone and paying them which was quite expensive and such things were normal
by me deliberately or unknowingly. They properly wearing plastic gloves used to
clean those places so that we do not feel any kind of headache while using
those sinks, but I used to make jokes, taunt, and laugh.
If sometimes my brother wore
my clothes I was arguing with him and stubborn that I will not wear that cloth
again.
I was sometimes pretending to
be so hygienic, proud. I was often the reason of sadness in house because my
mother had cooked the food in house and we had eaten from outside on my demands
and in house I was bragging that dad has
bought me outside food and we are not eating at home which made angry, gloomy
to my mother.
But
Later
In England I had to work as a
waiter. Cleaning, bringing the un-cleaned, filthy utensils of others back for
washing. Such task became usual part of my jobs. In fact during food shops jobs
I was assigned duties of cleaning such dirtiest places no matter whether these
places were made dirty often more deliberately than unknowingly. I missed
everything of my back home. Salute to mum, I really mean it. May her soul rest
in peace. These small things really hurt parents they never express but they
really do, because they have deeper ocean of love, affection for us. We will
always remain kids for them, my belief.
During my odd jobs I had to do
most of the cleaning work and in house I have to do cleaning by myself. Some of
the bosses, so called managers could not even speak proper English, they
specially knew f*** off. When I sometimes made legit complaints about flattering
coworkers of boss/manager or his relatives or asked from him to change my
duties despite of being working same task for long time but they sometimes used
to reply me with such sentences i.e. " F*** off, if you want to do the job
than do otherwise f*** off from here". Which was quit immoral, rude, irritating
and lesson oriented.
Due to the odd nature of jobs,
I had to wear sometimes the stinky T-Shirts of my old workers (who left the
job) or coworkers' T-Shirts, trousers. Often some of my coworkers, who
sometimes not even take shower for whole weeks, do not even bother to consider that
it is other's stuff, wear my T-Shirt and thus to continue the shift I had to
wear the same T-Shirt again. Some of my roommates were using my towels,
clothes, and my personal stuff in my absence despite of my preventing.
Before
I do not know why but I was
not arrogant with my university mates because I learnt by my own hardworking but
my surrounding people were thinking I am arrogant, proud but I was optimistic.
During university time I had lots of new projects to develop with my mates but
because of few bad intentional guys’ actions, attitude I was avoiding to almost
everyone. Might be I was stereotyped because of few boasters, selfish guys I
was considering everybody same which in reality not true.
There were some seniors
related to my field who were friends of my brother. My brother often used to
asked me follow them, take guidance from them, requested them that they will
help you in getting, referencing you in getting job. They knew I have talent,
skills, but he was thinking they could help me but in reality they were just
proud, just braggers, boasters, degrading me. whenever I used to meet with them
they were just boasting about themselves, no any positive discussion, they were
discouraging me, when I requested them to pass my C.V in their companies than instead
of passing they were degrading me, discouraging me some just asked me to email
them but they never passed on to their companies. Such guys were just bragging
about themselves, their high fake salaries amount to my brother. Some guys were
working as freelance, they were just having registration not earning money but
pretending themselves as a big earners
.
But
Later
I came to know about mates,
who were positive before, all of them are on nice, stable jobs, positions. Many
of my juniors have got good jobs, higher positions. I was never arrogant and
against of their color, level of education or place they had come from but
because of some other peoples, their level of thinking, mentality, basic
ethics, actions despite of moving to the developed city. And those cheap guys
are still on their same position, no growth. Some of them are doing small level
odd jobs. But here I saw worst conditions comparatively to those happened
prior.
Before
If sometimes my brother became
ill I was unwilling to give support to him, I was not even going near to him while
he was vomiting. But my parents were there always to support, to help him and
for each other and for me in cleaning, supporting. I don’t know why? Why? Why? I
became so mean that I was not properly holding his hands the most important
exam of my life. The parents who grew me when they never felt shy, hesitated,
unhygienic, avoided in cleaning me when I was unable to even walk. How could I
do like that. I was so mean. Due to my
rude behavior at that time my brother knew about that that's why he often did
not tell me if he is ill or not feeling well. In fact when he vomited he locked
the door of toilet so that my mood does not get ruined, I should have not felt
bad. Oh my days, so kind and caring my family was but I was sinner, I failed
those exams.
But
Later
The world is round. During
jobs I had to clean the drunkest persons' vomiting specially or almost every
weekend in the restaurants, fish shops, stores, restaurants, car cleaning shops,
other shops where I had worked and the boss was deliberately calling me because
of jealousy, I was the junior or I would say my own past actions' punishment. I
had to do that cleaning, which I did and remembering those past moments,
kindness of my kind parents. At home I was regretting, recalling my memories and
crying. I begged pardon first I prayed that may nobody in my family get ill but
incase if, ever they get minor illness, I will be very happy or I would be
happiest to stand first of all with them for their care.
Before
My parents often when I crossed
the limits many times they warned me that never feel so proud, arrogant never
consider yourself superior or I sometimes being unthankful. My parents asked to
me, “always be thankful”, but I was always thinking I am nothing, I do not have
anything. Though I knew that I have talent, best education, skills by the blessings
of God and prayers of my parents. I was considering my family down just only on
the basis of money, my friends in neighbors were financially stronger but our
family was more intelligent. I was always giving their examples but never considered
our positive things, key skills. My father also used to say me, "Do not
try to put your feet in others' shoes, Always be thankful and trust on skills,
talent which God has blessed you, you have got talent, you can get all such
things by your hardworking in future, you should not degrade yourself, always
remain balanced". My friends were going to foreign countries but
pretending in the home country very high profile, I was feeling degraded,
depressed myself in front of them.
But
Later
I came to know after coming
here that such guys were just pretending they were not studying but just doing
odd jobs, fun. My friends were nothing they were not even able to pass the
entry test for universities, some of them even did not study until college, and
they just got the degree by sitting at home on financial basis, not on skills,
by study. In fact they were getting admissions in big private universities on
financial basis. If I see them now, even before in front of my nature of jobs
they were not earning equivalent to me. I was earning more than them. In fact
If I had continued my those jobs, I would have been on higher positions
nowadays with higher salaries and until now I would have my own big house, car
but because of following to wrong peoples, wrong desires, paths I diverted from
actual path of my life. They were just
financially stronger, there relative used to come from foreign countries their children
were not having manners, just pretending to be nice, they used to speak English
but street languages, slangs, their style was like street gang boys, vulgar,
not decent, well educated. I never considered these points. Their families did
not make the properties by themselves, those all were granted to them during
old times.
Before
To full fill my crazy demand
of study in London, my father took the loan against our small house, my elder
brother has to do long hours of two jobs. My father had to spend more hours on
our shop. Without caring anybody, I was standing firm on my demand of master's
degree from London. I had very little savings. My family did everything for me.
I remember, even if my face, while just sitting and doing nothing, ever became
gloomy for no reason but my mother prompted me and ask me why am I gloomy? Is
everything alright? Sometimes even I did not realize that was my face really
gloomy? But when she prompted me, she asked me so kindly that immediately I
feel relaxed. I was blindly taking disadvantage of kindness of my family. I was
so blind that I could not see hardships, tolerance, sacrifices of my family. I
was keep emphasizing on my family to send the complete fees to university,
though it was not necessarily an issue but mesmerized by the fake, misleading, cheesy,
superstitious guidance, more and high commissions of agents of foreign colleges.
Even during the last moments of my arrival to UK, I was not completely
satisfied, not happy.
I was often remained unhappy. My
family often used to say me I have too much pride in myself, which I should not
have. I should always be down to earth. I was always following my friends (not
real friends) or guys of around my ages of my area. Many of them were not even
intelligent, sharp. I used to devalue myself. They were just living luxurious
life having fancy electronic gadgets. They were studying pretending to be very
elegant only and only because of their parent's money, no matter how it was
earned. Comparatively to them I was sharper, intelligent, sports wise active but
only financially not stronger. They were having big friend circle, rich, that’s
why I could never bring forward my true skills, abilities which could dominate
but I was feeling and making myself being dominated by them, which ruined my
abilities, caliber and my own mistakes, weaknesses pushed me backward.
But
Later
I realized my mistakes, sinful
attitudes, life changing experiences have opened my eyes, taught me a lot and
have made me soften and kind. My heart and arrogant feelings have completely
melted down, cooled down. My previous actions were completely my immaturity.
Before
My friends were having many girlfriends
and colleagues in private colleges and universities, I was curious. I was
demanding to enjoy that fun by taking admission in expensive, namely private
college and universities.
But
Later
I realized such things are so
common and easy in this world nowadays that such things do not worth any more
for me. I repent on wishing for such things.
Before
My mother was cooking for us,
I sometimes used to sit near my mother while cooking, she was sitting on the
floor and the stove was on the floor, it was hard to make roti / chapatti (Asian
bread) while standing. The place near stove was very hot but my mother never
ever let me to sit near that and emphasized politely to "get rest or do
other work, I will call you guys" though she was sweating while cooking
because of hotness. How caring she was. My mother's hand / skin often got
burned while cooking fried food / other food. She often gave us precautions,
asked us to avoid standing, take care. She never ever let us get our skin burnt,
but still due to my negligence when I got burned, she get worried and tried her best in the
healing my wounds.
But
Later
In England, when I was working
in kebab shops, fast food shops, I had to stand directly in front of the kebab Standing
stove, grill standing for long hours. Often, I got my skin burnt because of working
near stoves, hottest oils but unfortunately nobody was there to even help /
care. I was taunted in fact with such sentences that "work properly, are
you blind, sleeping, idiot".
I have seen that there are
some people who are despite of being millionaires, unable to look after their
parents, their parents are being cared by others. There are some who are not
willing to see their parents for once in a week, month. They are living
separately so that they do not get disturbed because of their parents. I think
such persons might be unlucky. I know the loss of mother, pain of separation
from parents, sibling. I have seen some rich person who even did not attend the
funeral ceremony of their parent. Once my friend in front of me went inside the
room of his employer informed him that, "Your wife has just called on
office number to urgently inform you that your father is no more” and his
employer while holding his cellphone and talking with somebody else stopped talking
and replied to my friend angrily, " it's good that he has died, what the
f*** I do if he has died, f*** off from here and shut the door". The
parents for whom the birth of their child is greatest joy of their life and
then some unlucky, arrogant child pass such comments on their demise, isn't it
so shameful, rude, unethical, disrespect or I would say biggest sin of life.
What would you say?
Before
I was always keeping beard at
the time of university, college, job places. Always my parents, brother,
sometimes my friendly employers advised me to remain clean shaved all the time,
along-with your skills, caliber but my childish reply was that, "bearded,
out-look is nothing only caliber, skills are everything", but in reality
out-look, personality, appearance do matter.
But
Later
In England even for cleaning
jobs, butcher shop, car wash, labor jobs, kebab shop, restaurants everywhere I
was emphasized deliberately by the employers to shave the beard regularly. I had
to remained clean shaved while cleaning the bins, moping the floor, chopping
the kebabs but most of the times I was keeping beard while working as a Network
Administrator, Telecom Engineer, doing white collar jobs in a pleasant
environment in my past.